To the blogger who copied me, I don’t really know where to start …
Don’t worry, I am not going to name you because I am not that mean, and I somehow feel you must have had your reasons for doing it.
I have also AGONISED over writing this, for fear of being shunned by the blogging community, a community that I already find big and scary sometimes. But it’s not me who has done wrong.
Ultimately I felt compelled to write this post because I am experiencing a real mix of emotions – I’m baffled, hurt, pee’d off, confused and angry all in one.
And the thing is, you haven’t been all that clever in covering your tracks.
A few months ago I saw you write a post on a blogger’s group – frustrated that you didn’t know how to get one of your posts to go viral. I read the whole thread and in it you were talking to other bloggers about the ins and outs of going viral and saying that a viral post doesn’t actually help a blogger to get recognised anyway. You said something along the lines of;
“of course there was that girl who wrote the piece about xxxx and that went viral, but can I remember her name? No, of course I can’t.”
At the time I almost choked when I read it, as it was blatantly about me. But I swallowed it and moved on with my busy life, trying to juggle being a new mum and a freelancer.
But then months later, during the travellings and sharings of a blogger – I see your post!
Yes the words aren’t identical, but the title, the premise, the vibe and the intonation are ALL THE SAME.
To make sure I am not going crazy I have run it past a few pairs of eyes, and they all concur.
Yes I know bloggers overlap, especially parenting ones. There is only so much stuff to write about. But this, this is just too much.
Thing is, it would have been really nice if perhaps you had cited my work, or started your piece with a little note to say you had been inspired by my post and wanted to write something similar. That would have just been you know – kind and polite and all that.
And isn’t that ‘blogger code’ anyway?
You know what else? I’m not a big blogger. I probably won’t ever be. I blog because I love writing. It is that simple. It’s my hobby.
I don’t make money from my blog bar the odd little item to review, and I doubt I ever will.
I don’t spend hours on blogging groups linking up with all the top bloggers because I simply don’t have time.
I haven’t won a blogging award and I don’t suppose I ever will. I’ll leave that to the big boys.
But I have loved writing since I was a tiny person, and to have even ONE person read my ramblings makes me a happy bunny. I am humble in my writing, and that is the way I will stay.
That post, the one that you copied is also something I’m very proud of. I wrote it, in my PJs, completely sleep deprived with a tiny weeny baby who I was struggling to keep up with and feed.
I had no idea it would get the reception it did – but a few nights later when I randomly saw it being shared all over twitter and on parenting websites, I actually cried a little tear. It made my baby blues a tiny bit more bearable.
I will finish up by saying that when I was about 6, I recall a girl in my class who kept copying all my clothes and everything I had and did. Perplexed I asked my mum why and she said;
“Don’t worry – imitation is the greatest form of flattery. It’s annoying but you should be pleased.”
I am desperately trying to hang onto that.
My mum also taught me never to copy someone else’s homework. Because if I did, and got great marks, I’d never feel good about it.
But this has confirmed one thing for me – I’m going to keep writing, just for me. I hope you do the same.
(Oh and because I think figures bother you, ‘that’ post of mine has had approx 275,000 views and you know what, I have no idea AT ALL if that’s ‘great’. You probably have waaaay more. If that’s the case, congrats)