We are now on a 9 week countdown to our wedding.
I keep thinking of the countdown as a pregnancy countdown and how fast it goes. The time between 30 and 39 weeks pregnant when I had Noah simply flew – and I know this will too!
One of the questions you get asked a lot when you’re getting married is “are you changing your name?”
I think these days it’s perfectly acceptable NOT to change your name. The feminist in me thinks it’s an out-dated practice that simply plays to a misogynistic ideal and society.
The non-feminist side to me that comes out when I’m tired or feeling romantic (which isn’t too often these days due to the tired bit) thinks it’s quite a sweet thing to do if you’re that way inclined.
There are a number of issues I’ve taken into account when deciding what my name will be. These are:
- Wanting to have the same name as my children
- NOT wanting to lose O’Brien. O’Brien is the last link to my Irish roots, roots that I’m immensely proud of
- Being crap at admin and can’t really be bothered to change stuff
- Not wanting to change my ‘work’ name
- Wanting to show Jay that I do love him a bit really
So as you can see – I’ve been flitting between changing my surname, and not.
Oh by the way – Jay’s surname is not ‘King’ as he’d have you believe. It’s actually ‘Griffiths’!
This is quite an important point.
He uses King for work, because he can’t says Griffiths – hence ‘JK’.
I also cannot say Griffiths and don’t really like it. *runs and hides from Jay’s entire family.*
I love O’Brien. Mmmm.
So due to my dilemmas I’ve decided to completely and utterly complicate my life and be:
I figure I’ve suffered a whole life of people getting the apostrophe wrong in my name, why not add a hyphen and a double barrell situation to REALLY throw them?!
I’m actually fairly chuffed with the decision. To be honest I’ll probably only change my passport so I sort of match Noah and everywhere else I’ll just remain Charlie O’Brien.
I’d love to hear what you did. Let me know in the comments below.