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Our Kent Wedding – I get married tomorrow!

It’s currently Wednesday afternoon and I feel rough with a rotten virus 🙁

But by the time this is published it will be the night before our wedding, so I just wanted to put down a few words about how I’m feeling, mainly so I can look back on my blog in years to come and remember all the emotions.

So tomorrow, I marry the love of my life.


James Heming Photography


I guess comparatively speaking, we met fairly late on in life.  I was 30 and Jay was 37.  We met at a time when we’d both given up on love.  Jay’s short marriage had broken up and I was feeling emotionally battered and bruised after a number of years of very bad experiences with men. On paper, we shouldn’t really have worked.

People told me to give myself space and time before getting involved with someone new – and I knew they probably right but I fell in love.  Turns out getting involved was absolutely the right thing for both of us to do!

If you’re reading this at a time when your heart feels delicate or has been broken – please know that things can change! There are no rules when it comes to love.  I don’t regret all the heartache I went through. I don’t even regret the person that tried to break my spirit.  It all made me stronger and I value true love more than ever now.

It was always important for me to marry Jay. Whilst it’s not the be all and end all, it was just something I wanted.  Hopefully he does to! Haha.


James Heming Photography


We ended up starting our family first mainly due to circumstances. And I’ll never regret that either.  Our beautiful boy Noah will be there with us to celebrate tomorrow and that means the world to me.  I just hope the toddler meltdowns aren’t too bad.  I can live in hope, right?!

I honestly believe that our family unit is incredibly strong without a wedding ceremony – but tomorrow is a chance to show our friends and family and the world how much we love each other and to make it official.

Plus it’s my turn!

It’s my turn to be a bride.  To wear a beautiful dress and walk up the aisle with my lovely Dad.  I think there was a time when Dad thought he’d never get the chance!

I know whatever happens tomorrow, it will be an incredible day.  Even if all my plans somehow go wrong, we will still get to make those vows and that’s what is important.  And most importantly – I get to grow old with my favourite person in the world.

Right, now I just need to go and get well – hopefully by the time you read this I’ll be virus free! Wish me luck!





P.s – what do you think makes a happy marriage?  Leave me a comment below x



11 Responses to Our Kent Wedding – I get married tomorrow!

  1. Being the best of friends, growing older together, trusting one another. Always being there for when the other one is feeling down. To listen to the good the bad and the I’ve had a horrendous day at work. Do things together as a family, make time to spend as just the two of you. Learn to love the bad habits as well as the good. Take lots of photos to look back on in years to come. Try not to argue over simple things, never go to bed sad and unhappy with each other. Embrace all that married life throws at you. Tell each other everyday, I Love You ? I’ve been with my husband since I was 12 years old and I’m now 37. We have been married for nearly 19 years sadly still to go on a honeymoon too maybe one day when I’m 100 or so ? We have 3 children Tiffany who is
    nearly 18 Harvey nearly 14 and Freya nearly 10. Life has given us some very tough challenges especially over the past 12 months but as a family and as a couple we have battled on.
    I wish you both a lifetime of happiness together and enjoy every moment of tomorrow xxx

  2. Taking time with each other, understanding what the other person has been through. Making sure differences of opinion are fully discussed and overcome if they can be. Appreciating the differences, enjoying the similarities. Communicating truthfully without deceit. Attention, thoughtful actions however small. Saying “I love you.”

  3. Lovely blog, Gave me a warm glow in my heart. The most important thing is a good sense of humour, always make an effort or someone else might, and try to look at things from their point of view. It’s worked so far, 25 years this year.

  4. My hubby and I too met when both of us were fragile, we were set up by work colleagues and it should never have worked, he is an introvert and I am more outgoing but we connected and celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary 2 days ago… We have a 9 and 6 year old and I honestly believe that I met him at the right time, not a moment before or a moment later…
    Huge congratulations for tomorrow xx

  5. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness together. A secret that my mum told me for a happy marriage is to never go to bed on an argument. Also to listen to the other person even if you don’t think that they are right. Xx

  6. Lovely blog, brought tears to my eyes and the photos are lovely! You must be so so excited about tomorrow, I feel a bit excited for you and I don’t even know you!
    So what makes a happy marriage? Some people say hard work “you have to work hard at a marriage” I was told but I don’t believe that. It shouldn’t be hard should be about slipping comfortably into a life together, plodding along nicely. Myself and my husband don’t get much time alone together, he works away a lot and we have two boys who, despite being 13 and 9 are actually harder work than a baby! We don’t get any peace but when we do we try to make the most of it. It’s so easy to get bogged down with bills, house stuff, stress of children/families/work but at the end of the day always take the time to sit together, share a meal, or go for a walk, watch tv, make the time to be together every day, even if one of you is in the bath and the other just sits on the bathroom floor for a chat (regular occurrence in our house) oh and laugh..laugh lots and lots and be silly. After all he’s your best friend with the added bonus of being your soul mate and your forever!
    Wishing you lots of luck for a smooth day tomorrow. I can’t wait to see pictures and read your next blog xx

  7. I met my hubby late on too. We met online and one of our first few conversations was about having children. He already had one and I wanted one. We got married in our beautiful Kentish venue 3 years ago on the 20th. Our little monster was born in December 2014 after years of trying without success. When it’s right you know and you could have been together for 5 mins or 50 years and you know. I’m still trying to figure out the what makes a happy marriage and I don’t think I can say it’s one thing. But 9 years after meeting we’re still together so something must be right. Good luck tomorrow xx

  8. Laughter and talking and just being their when u need each other X I’ve been through a pants time lately but he still makes me smile and laugh when I’m down but knows when to give me space xxx good luck to you both and I wish u lots of many happy years full of love and laughter xxx

  9. Never go onto bed on an argument has always been our mantra. My husband and I also married late – he was 39 and I was 31. He had been married before and literally jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire, marrying me 6 weeks after his decree nisi came through. We knew we were doing the right thing for us but a lot of our friends said that it wouldn’t work as it was too soon however, here we are about to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. We have two beautiful children and he is still my very best friend. Congratulations and good luck to you both.

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Our Kent Wedding – I get married tomorrow!

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